Self-regard

Self-regard is the ability to appreciate your perceived positive aspects and possibilities as well as to accept your negative aspects and limitations and still feel good about yourself. It’s knowing your strengths and weaknesses and liking yourself “warts and all.” This conceptual component of emotional intelligence is associated with general feelings of security, inner strength, self-assuredness, self-confidence and feelings of self-adequacy. Feeling sure of oneself is dependent upon self-respect and self-esteem, which are based on a fairly well-developed sense of identity. People with good self-regard feel fulfilled and satisfied with themselves.

Neuroscience techniques to enhance positive neurons in the Brain

The CHEC System (to enhance the generation of positive neurons and feelings of self-regard) is designed to increase the growth of positive neurons on the left-hand side of the pre-frontal cortex. Awareness of negative self-talk, defining positive attributes and goals that you want from life enables one to create healthier possibilities that can change one’s life in meaningful and sustainable ways.

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Self-awareness

Be honest with yourself about your strengths and weaknesses; know what your weaknesses are but don’t dwell on them. Focus on the positive. Remember that nobody is perfect. Be aware of all those things you tell yourself to put yourself down. Write these negative thoughts down in a journal. Think of a healthier, more positive thought to challenge or negate each negative thought. Beliefs are not cast in stone and you can at any point shift the limiting beliefs that are holding you back including those that negate your self-regard.

Enhance resilience

Life can disappoint us and it is through set-backs that we learn and grow. What’s important is not how often you stumble, but how quickly you get back up.

Be Authentic

Be aware that your inner state is known by others even when we are not expressing our true feelings. This information is gathered by the emotional brain. Therefore, being connected in an authentic way (not being afraid of who you are) and being connected to your greatness or potential is important as others can sense this. As soon as you become aware that you no longer wish to have these negative thoughts about yourself. You have the power to change it. Simply by accepting negative feelings and releasing them, as they arise. You have the power to change your thoughts, feelings and intentions and in so doing change your life. By enhancing your-self-regard, you will feel more content and confident about who you are. Your chances of success and fulfilment in both your professional and personal life will be enhanced.

Take responsibility for your happiness

Life is full of choices, even happiness is a choice. As rational thinking beings we can at any stage choose to make a change in our lives – all it requires is some strength and courage. Don’t wait for other people to make you happy.

Your needs matter

It’s OK to be selfish. At times you must prioritise your needs. If you continuously put your needs aside to please others you will be setting a precedent and others will soon take advantage of this. Why should anyone else be more important to you, than yourself? The only exception is perhaps a mother-child relationship. Set boundaries with others and be assertive.

Keep good company

Toxic relationships are extremely hazardous to your mental health. People who constantly take without giving in return, who leave you emotionally drained and feeling bad about yourself are no good and need to be weeded out of your life.

Set goals and track them

Don’t take a laissez-faire approach to your life. Put pen to paper and actively map out goals for yourself and monitor your progress along the way. When you have achieved a goal or a particular step along the way, mark it and take note of it. This will help you to be more mindful of your progress and achievements which is encouraging and helps you to stay motivated and positive. Often in our fast-paced lives today, we achieve something and quickly move on to the next agenda without taking the time to reflect on what we have done or reward ourselves for our efforts. Give back to yourself, you deserve it!